You New in Town?
2/9/18 - We say yes to new friends, sharing suggestions for moving to a new city, finding your feet after a breakup, and being a good bestie when your relationship is about to go long-distance.
What to do when you're new in town / trying to make new friends
- Be proactive.
- Ask for introductions.
- You're going to feel lonely sometimes. That's okay.
- Try to set a specific day and time to hang with new acquaintances.
- It takes time to build intimacy. Friends in your new town won't be besties right away.
- Make a plan with your existing BFFs for regular check-ins. Share your new life with them.
- It can take a whole year (or longer) to feel settled in a new place.
- It can be really exciting to see what (and who!) you feel like in a new place.
- Do the touristy stuff. Explore.
- Make your wallet match your new life: get your library card, metro card, the stamp card from your new coffee shop. The sooner you act like you live in the new place, the sooner it will feel that way.
- Get involved in the civic life of your new town.
- Is your BFF moving away? Make space in your schedule to check in, maybe in different ways that before (texting plus phone calls, FaceTime, emails, etc). Gift a museum membership so your friend feels a connection to the new place.